5 05 2017


Happy Anniversary to us.

Thirty-eight years ago today, I walked down a long, red-carpeted aisle, holding the strong arm of a loving father who had held me so very well for the twenty-one years leading up to this day.

I walked that aisle in the surrender of a bride — choosing to join my life to this man — to prefer him above myself, to love him with every part of my being, for better or worse, in sickness and health, for richer or poorer, till death do us part.

The strains of Beethoven’s Ode to Joy filled the sanctuary as the congregation rose to their feet and all eyes turned to watch, but my eyes were fixed on him. The man who waited for me at the end of that aisle.

I felt only peace and deep joy in that moment. I had no idea what lay ahead for us. No idea how hard it would get or how much refining it takes for two stubborn lumps of immovable rock to be melted into one pool of golden grace.

But that’s the thing about God. He doesn’t need my knowing. He is always working out plans formed long ago with perfect faithfulness. His ways are always higher, and His purposes holier.

Thirty-eight years. Thirty-eight years of God’s faithfulness. Of laughter and tears. Of sorrow and delight. Of offense and forgiveness and always the choosing — the same holy choosing of surrender.

And today? My eyes are fixed on the man. And I feel only peace and deep joy.

Happy Anniversary, my love. Here’s to thirty-eight more.

When I reached the end of that aisle, George sang the above song to me right before Dad slipped my arm into his. We’ve since sung it in many weddings together and made this recording years ago. I hope you enjoy it.

Photo credit: Stephanie Damoff, 1989




13 responses

5 05 2017
George Damoff

You’ve done it again…made me cry. I love you, too!

5 05 2017

Score! My work is done here. ๐Ÿ˜‰

5 05 2017

You two are such a wonderful example of love and devotion for a lifetime. I remember being there and hearing this song. Tears then, tears now. Love you both and pray you have many years more!

5 05 2017

Thanks so much, Vicki! We love you and Rob, too. God is kind to give friends who still remember your wedding 38 years later! ๐Ÿ™‚

5 05 2017
Jim Leftwich

A beautiful couple with beautiful hearts ! Happy anniversary—I love you both very much ! I remember very well standing with my beautiful daughter, crying while my son-in-law to be sang this song. I am so proud of both of you and of the love you share with family, friends and those in need. Much love, Dad (PJ)

7 05 2017

Aw, thanks, Dad. I couldn’t look at you in that moment, because I knew my heart would break. You’re the best daddy ever. Love you. xoxo

5 05 2017


7 05 2017

Thank you!

6 05 2017
Kathleen Morgan

Almost 36 years!!! Precious words…Happy Anniversary!!

7 05 2017

Thank you, Kathleen! Happy (almost) 36th to you!

6 05 2017
Margaret and Byron VanDover

What an inspiration you two are and have been! We were there when you walked down the aisle, and had no doubts your love would last and grow, as it has. Congratulations! We love you!

9 05 2017

Thank you so much, dear Margaret and Byron! Your marriage and family have been an inspiration to us from the beginning. Much love to you! xo

20 06 2017
Frances A. Garcia

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Thank you,

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